“We go dey hail, hail, hail, hail … hail your name, name, name, name… day by day. All the way. All the way!” Tayo and Lara screamed and danced. It was their wedding reception! The day they had waited for. Family, friends, well-wishers, haters and “mo gbo, mo ya”* people looked on as the couple had their first dance. Afterwards, the bride threw her bouquet and as fate would have it, her best lady caught it. Not long after, Ade, the best man, walked over to her side. Tayo and Lara smiled. They knew something was cooking.
After the crowd began to disperse, the couple went round the secondary school hall they had used as their reception venue. They greeted their family members and their colleagues who had contributed and helped to make the day a reality. In all sincerity, they were both knackered. The visits to uncles and aunties, pre-wedding counselling, photo shoots and event planning of the last few months had drained them emotionally, physically, financially and even spiritually. Neither of them had had time for a proper Bible study in weeks.
Tayo just wanted the day to be over. He had enjoyed everything but he couldn’t take any more. He was not even looking forward to having sex with his bride. All he wanted was sleep. Lara, on the other hand, was as tired as he was, but she was also angry. Her friends had not gotten enough food to eat despite the huge amount they spent on food and drinks. Also, her legs were aching from all the dancing and walking around. Finally, her husband had not even bothered to comfort her, he was just smiling like somebody that something was doing. How could he be so inconsiderate?
At the guest house, after their friends and family had left, Tayo and Lara laid on the floor and bed respectively. They were spent! Lara was waiting for Tayo to apologize to her for not caring about her feelings. The poor guy just wanted to freshen up and sleep. As he went into the bathroom to have his bath, Lara spoke: “Tayo, I can’t believe you are this inconsiderate! So all the love you showed me during courtship was fake! Ah. Aye mi, temi ba mi. I am finished. My friends warned me o. They said all men are the same, but I thought you were different. I was so wrong.”
Tayo looked at her like she was speaking German, he couldn’t understand where the words came from and what his wife was reacting to. He didn’t need this drama to add to his headache, but then he had to be the man, so he went to his wife and tried to comfort her. “Sweetheart. Ife mi. I don’t know what I did, but whatever it is, I am sorry. You know I love you. You know I…” Lara pushed him away. “Tayo, so despite my anger and hurt, the only thing on your mind is sex! Tayo! So you are apologizing to me just so you can get what you want. I am even more disappointed.”
Bros T did not know when he lost control. “Me? Thinking of sleeping with you? All I wanted to do was to sleep before you started this your drama.” Lara started crying. “Ah. Tayo. Adetayo Oluwagbotemi Fadipe! So you don’t find me attractive? Ah. Jesu! Who did I offend? I have missed it in marriage. I have missed it in life! Jesus! Why did I not pray more? Why did I not wait on the Lord more?” As she wept, she picked up the intercom and called the reception. “Receptionist, I need a room. I can’t afford to stay with this man. No way!”
He looked on as she carried some of her things and left the room. Although he loved her, he couldn’t put up with this her attitude. He wondered if he would have been better off marrying Sola, the lady in the choir. With tears in his eyes and pain in his heart, he watched his bride walk away from him and he was powerless to stop her.
They didn’t know it, but their marriage was already over. On the same day, it was solemnized, their union had been shattered. It would take a miracle for the cracked foundations to sustain any home not to talk of the great home God had in mind for them…
- Who do you think is at fault in this situation?
- If you could speak to the couple that night, what would you tell them?
- What could Lara have done better?
- Should Tayo have reacted the way he did?
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*Mo gbo, mo ya people refers to uninvited guests