Hello. This has been a part of my life for so long and I just want to get it out. I am the second of two children. My brother is 4 years older than me. My parents are good people. Growing up for me was interesting. Because of my stature, I began to get advances from older guys early in my life. I didn’t want to tell my parents because I did not know how they would react. However, I was free to tell my brother anything and everything.

Anytime I went to him crying about guys or any other thing, he offered a shoulder to cry on. The warmth and affection he gave me was something I always looked forward to. Sometimes the touches were too close but I liked it. I think he did too because he always seemed to enjoy it and he also didn’t like when I was with other guys, even those guys that I told him I like.

One day, we had sex. It was not something we planned. It just happened. It was painful and strange. But I wanted more. That happened July 2015. We have been having sex since that day and I am growing to love my brother more. There have been other guys that I loved, but my brother gets jealous anytime I get close to anyother guy and I don’t want him to be angry so I leave them.

I don’t know what to do. I wish I could marry my brother because I cant imagine what I would do without him, but I also know it is not possible. What do I do? I love him so much. I’m a Christian and I know what we are doing is wrong, but I don’t know how to stop. Please help me.

Yours Sincerely,


Author: Iremide Akinsola

I am a Christian. I enjoy reading, writing, listening to music and watching football.


  1. Wow! I didn’t see this one coming. I’m crying. I know someone who’s been in a similar situation. I guess I’ll share this post with them and hope they come through for A.

    In the interim, A, you have my love and are in my prayers.


  2. Wow!

    What you can do is to spill the beans, tell it to your parents, have them understand why and how this came about, expose this act as the first step..

    You might need to see a counselor after it… help realign your thoughts about sex, relationships and kinship…

    Lastly, I sincerely believe deliverance is not out of place for both you and your brother….get a bible believing church…

    I pray the Good Lord helps you through this and delivers you….Amen


  3. I think you two should first separate from each other. You also need to be counselled by a MATURE Christian( not even your parents this time around) and above all prayers cannot be left out. I pray the Lord will see you through this. Amen.


  4. This is a very sensitive issue and should be handled with divine wisdom. First of all, God does not condemn you and you shouldn’t condemn yourself. Being self determined at this point might not even work, because it’s more like a stronghold now. One advise I would give is seek help ( the right help). Look for a trusted matured believer who can stand by you and counsel you through the process of getting untangled from this situation. Also this is the time to really seek God. Let him know what’s going on in your heart and how much of his help you need. God won’t leave you stranded, he sees the sincerity of the heart and would grant you divine wisdom on what steps to take. Finally don’t allow idleness or wallow in self pity, if you can flee please move as fast as your legs can carry you (flee to safety).

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